I'm not really eloquent at putting titles together, so just read. I'm gonna keep this one as short as I can. You know how people form opinions based off of the words of others? It's not so different when you have an opinion of a person. Well, I got this homeboy... let's just call him Lucky, and he's in a relationship. It's not the most perfect one and there's been a lot of fuck-ups made, fights had and attempts to repair damages, but they are truly in love. So, anyway, Lucky sends me a message talking about how his girlfriend's sister don't really like him.
Okay? Big whoop. Not something I would lose sleep over. Apparently, Lucky feels the same way. But the reason why is stupid as hell but legit if you're concerned for your family; she thinks he's abusive. Granted, I know abuse comes in all forms than just a black eye and bruises poorly covered with makeup, but I can vouch for this man; he doesn't show the signs. Granted, the two fight from time to time and it's never been physical, but what couples don't argue? Why does she think he's abusive? Because Lucky had his homie over and brought him in the crib. I don't see much wrong with that, Lucky and his girl share their place 50-50, y'know? Therefore, she feels Lucky doesn't listen to her.
Guess not with her, but then again, Lucky feels like she's practically offended by any and everything so he doesn't feel like he can do or say much of anything. He hasn't hung out with his friends, he hardly has them over, etc.
Moving on, I tell Lucky that maybe her sister has a low opinion of him because well, his girlfriend gives her reason to have one. Women like to talk and when you're constantly telling your girlfriends that your man ain't shit and he's this and he's that, they're not gonna want to see anything good about him.
Also, women should not only learn to tell their girlfriends to mind their own business, but you should stop running to them every time your guy does something you feel is an affront to you, because not everyone that says they have love for you wants to see you rise up. Sometimes, just sometimes, they look for you to fail.
Monday, December 26, 2016
Monday, December 5, 2016
Self entitled people
So this fuckery has been bothering me for a while. I hate those people that feel as if the world owes them something. You know who I'm talking about. There's the ones that had a rough early life, maybe they had a shit parent or parents, or maybe they lost a parent, or maybe they were just always poor. Then there's also the ones who had absolutely everything handed to them.
So let me get a bit specific. A few posts, I told y'all about someone, let's call him the Fool from now on to make my life easier. This is quite simply the neediest, whiniest, most selfish individual I've come across. He's that inconsiderate son of a bitch that loves to tell other people that his life is harder so they shouldn't complain.
Bitch, pause. Let me tell you something. You can't bitch about your life being hard when it's a result of your own fucked up decisions. It's not even bad luck, which I'm all too well acquainted with. No, you are fucking stupid. This nimrod had a fucking job when I met him, but at some point lost it right after his birthday which to me seems to have been a consequence of his constant drinking. And yes, he still drinks heavily. Total lightweight, I can drink him under the table without trying, but he drinks consistently. Pretty much every day. But I sit and listen to him bitch about not having a job now right. Yet a few months ago, he blew a job I got him. Basically, cuz he doesn't get his ass up and go to fucking work. You claim to want a job but don't want to do what it takes to keep the bitch. In other words, shut yo bitch ass up.
Then I hit a rough patch here and this bitch proceeds to tell me that I'm not down as low as he is. Well, no, I'm not, you fucking simpleton, but that's because I constantly get my ass up and grind. (Make no mistake though I have hit one hell of a low point and changes absolutely must be made). But let's be real, the Fool has no idea what struggles I've been through. He just has it convinced that his life has been harder than mine. Granted, he has one thing he's experienced that I haven't, and that's the loss of his mother. But you can't pull that out as an excuse for why you don't have yo mutha fuckin life together 19 years later. You're sad around mothers day. Ok, i get that. It's nowhere near that point of the year so shut the actual fuck up and get a goddamn job and most importantly, get the fuck away from me.
He complains about jobs he gets, but bitch what are your actual qualifications. I looked at the resume and no wonder I get calls and offers all the time but you don't. You don't do shit. Granted there seems to be a great deal missing from his resume but still. Your work history was never stable and you really don't have much in the way of skills. Do you really have the right to be picky when you also have no place of your own and no car? Answer: No, you fucking don't. Shut the fuck up and take what's offered, find a way to get yo lil ass there every fucking day, and most importantly (I can't say this enough) SHUT.....THE....FUCK....UP!!!!!
Newsflash, cupcake, the world ain't a nice place and you aren't guaranteed shit in life but struggle and death to end it. Life dealt you a rough hand early? Join the fucking club. Some of us have gone through abuse and neglect but we get the fuck up and make ourselves productive members of society instead of complaining that this shouldn't be that hard. Then he gets attitudes when he's told no. Such as, no you can't borrow my car because that bitch belongs to me and I said so. I don't need a fucking reason....gets major attitude. Gets mad when people tell him no they won't loan him money. Man that attitude gets fucking epic. It's rather funny actually.
Then he has this thing about relationships. He feels entitled to whatever he wants. So he wants someone to only be his friend and that's what he expects. He wants to go to their house and have drinks and not give them any knowing that the expectation was set for him to give it up before he got there. Then he expects them to be ok with supplying him with all this alcohol and take him back home when he's ready to go when he clearly knew the expectation before they agreed to come get him an did not live up to it. He feels like he's not in the wrong. Now, I'm not saying he's obligated to put out just because they bought him some booze, as that would make him a very cheap whore, but you can't act surprised when you've talked to this person, you have discussed some sexual things, they felt like you were feeling them and they were feeling you, and you just left them hanging. Of course the Fool gets offended when they tell him about himself. Like, how do you get mad at the truth? You are a bit old to not have anything of your own, not a job, a car, nor a place. You need people to do shit for you but get offended if they call you a user. You find it absurd that they tell you that you play games, but you just played a whole game to get them to buy you a bottle.
See I sit back and watch this self entitled little fucker and every so often have to put his bitch ass in his place. Then I get told I'm mean. Well, I guess I'll be mean. You're a self entitled little twat waffle that's 30 years old and still hasn't grown the fuck up. You haven't even figured out that your fucked up attitude is why people treat you like a ho. You do this shit like people owe you something. What the fuck do we owe you? Nothing, that's what. No one owes you anything. Not booze, not a job, not money, not a car, not even our time or attention. Work for what you want like the rest of us you ignorant little cretin.
So let me get a bit specific. A few posts, I told y'all about someone, let's call him the Fool from now on to make my life easier. This is quite simply the neediest, whiniest, most selfish individual I've come across. He's that inconsiderate son of a bitch that loves to tell other people that his life is harder so they shouldn't complain.
Bitch, pause. Let me tell you something. You can't bitch about your life being hard when it's a result of your own fucked up decisions. It's not even bad luck, which I'm all too well acquainted with. No, you are fucking stupid. This nimrod had a fucking job when I met him, but at some point lost it right after his birthday which to me seems to have been a consequence of his constant drinking. And yes, he still drinks heavily. Total lightweight, I can drink him under the table without trying, but he drinks consistently. Pretty much every day. But I sit and listen to him bitch about not having a job now right. Yet a few months ago, he blew a job I got him. Basically, cuz he doesn't get his ass up and go to fucking work. You claim to want a job but don't want to do what it takes to keep the bitch. In other words, shut yo bitch ass up.
Then I hit a rough patch here and this bitch proceeds to tell me that I'm not down as low as he is. Well, no, I'm not, you fucking simpleton, but that's because I constantly get my ass up and grind. (Make no mistake though I have hit one hell of a low point and changes absolutely must be made). But let's be real, the Fool has no idea what struggles I've been through. He just has it convinced that his life has been harder than mine. Granted, he has one thing he's experienced that I haven't, and that's the loss of his mother. But you can't pull that out as an excuse for why you don't have yo mutha fuckin life together 19 years later. You're sad around mothers day. Ok, i get that. It's nowhere near that point of the year so shut the actual fuck up and get a goddamn job and most importantly, get the fuck away from me.
He complains about jobs he gets, but bitch what are your actual qualifications. I looked at the resume and no wonder I get calls and offers all the time but you don't. You don't do shit. Granted there seems to be a great deal missing from his resume but still. Your work history was never stable and you really don't have much in the way of skills. Do you really have the right to be picky when you also have no place of your own and no car? Answer: No, you fucking don't. Shut the fuck up and take what's offered, find a way to get yo lil ass there every fucking day, and most importantly (I can't say this enough) SHUT.....THE....FUCK....UP!!!!!
Newsflash, cupcake, the world ain't a nice place and you aren't guaranteed shit in life but struggle and death to end it. Life dealt you a rough hand early? Join the fucking club. Some of us have gone through abuse and neglect but we get the fuck up and make ourselves productive members of society instead of complaining that this shouldn't be that hard. Then he gets attitudes when he's told no. Such as, no you can't borrow my car because that bitch belongs to me and I said so. I don't need a fucking reason....gets major attitude. Gets mad when people tell him no they won't loan him money. Man that attitude gets fucking epic. It's rather funny actually.
Then he has this thing about relationships. He feels entitled to whatever he wants. So he wants someone to only be his friend and that's what he expects. He wants to go to their house and have drinks and not give them any knowing that the expectation was set for him to give it up before he got there. Then he expects them to be ok with supplying him with all this alcohol and take him back home when he's ready to go when he clearly knew the expectation before they agreed to come get him an did not live up to it. He feels like he's not in the wrong. Now, I'm not saying he's obligated to put out just because they bought him some booze, as that would make him a very cheap whore, but you can't act surprised when you've talked to this person, you have discussed some sexual things, they felt like you were feeling them and they were feeling you, and you just left them hanging. Of course the Fool gets offended when they tell him about himself. Like, how do you get mad at the truth? You are a bit old to not have anything of your own, not a job, a car, nor a place. You need people to do shit for you but get offended if they call you a user. You find it absurd that they tell you that you play games, but you just played a whole game to get them to buy you a bottle.
See I sit back and watch this self entitled little fucker and every so often have to put his bitch ass in his place. Then I get told I'm mean. Well, I guess I'll be mean. You're a self entitled little twat waffle that's 30 years old and still hasn't grown the fuck up. You haven't even figured out that your fucked up attitude is why people treat you like a ho. You do this shit like people owe you something. What the fuck do we owe you? Nothing, that's what. No one owes you anything. Not booze, not a job, not money, not a car, not even our time or attention. Work for what you want like the rest of us you ignorant little cretin.
Friday, December 2, 2016
Abuse in gay/lesbian relationships
Ok, now before you come at me with fuckery on this topic, let me be clear on something. Abuse is abuse. It does not matter if you are the same sex or not. What pisses me off is you simple minded fuckers that have the audacity to tell me shit like, "Y'all both dudes. So what if you hit each other? You can take it."
Pause. Bitch, no, that's not how this works. Yes, we both dudes. And yes, if a dude puts his hands on me, I'm going to proceed to beat the living hell out of him. However, that will be the absolute last time. The relationship doesn't go on after that. I don't do abusive relationships. That is still an abusive relationship.
Same with two females. The shit isn't cute. It is abuse. Being the same ex does not make it ok. It doesn't make the scratches and bruises less painful. It doesn't eliminate the trauma and stress.
The fact is, two people in love should not have to put hands on each other in anger. Is it understandable that we all have tempers? Yes, of course. But part of being an adult is knowing when to walk the fuck away and cool off.
Pause again. For you dumb bitches that do that thing when you have a mature partner who does walk away when they know they've hit their limit and you keep walking after them getting in their face, stop that shit. If I am pissed off, and I leave the room, or worse, leave the house, stay wherever the fuck I left you and give me a minute to calm down so I can come back and speak like a mature adult. If your partner walks away in the heat of an argument, they are more than likely doing it to keep their temper in check, which keeps the domestic violence away and keeps them from saying shit that hurts your feelings.
Back on topic, lately, I've noticed this being an issue in the gay community a lot more often. A little more so with lesbians but it happens with gay men too. Domestic violence is not something I have tolerance for at all. And the issue comes to light when I get that good ol' phone call from the victim, normally the more submissive one in the relationship, needing to get out. See, but I have a few conditions on this if I'm the friend you choose to call in this situation.
1. Please understand, I am beating your abuser's ass. This is not a question. I am beating the fuck out of him or her and please understand I will do my jail time, get out, and beat his or her ass again for having me locked up. I don't play about mine. Do not put your hands on anyone that I say belongs to me.
2. If you take your ass back after I beat his or her ass, do not call me when it happens again. Sorry, but I've already beat their ass once, possibly done jail time for it depending on whether they were dumb enough to call the cops in the situation and whether the cops sided with me or them. If you continue to put yourself in the situation, there's not much I can do to help you other than make that bitch go missing.
3. While you are in my house, your abuser gets their ass beat again if they show up talking about they just want to talk and apologize to you. Again, you have no say in this. I am beating their ass and this time, they're trespassing.
See, the problem is, a lot of people in the gay community think like some of you closed minded straight fuckers. They think it's ok because it's someone of the same sex. So with lesbians especially they figure since it's not a man beating the hell out of them it's just supposed to be ok. Then you call in family and friends and you think we supposed to just brush that shit off and be ok with the shit. We supposed to allow your abuser into our homes, invite them to our family events. No, we're not doing that. But what's worse is when you call us into your fucked up situation and then you side with your abuser, shutting us out when we've been there for you through your lowest points in life. But remember this, when the little bitch you with that's putting their hands on you is done with you, or when you finally hit your breaking point but you've alienated those closest to you, you already burned that bridge. Ain't no crossing that again.
So to my gay and lesbian brothers and sisters, understand this. Domestic violence is an issue and it should not be tolerated. If you cannot function in your relationship without putting your hands on each other, you are in an abusive relationship and you need to get the fuck out. It is not ok just because you're both men or you're both women. Love is not supposed to hurt you (least that's what they tell me).
Sidenote to the bisexuals, if you jump from a hetero relationship into a homo relationship right after and you're getting your ass beat in both, you need to be single. Stop, get the fuck out of your current situation, take some time to be alone and get to know yourself, what you can do for yourself. Love yourself. Yes, this is putting some light on a situation I have watched unfold in someone I know personally, and frankly, it's not uncommon, especially among this younger generation. There is nothing wrong with being single and working on you. No, I'm not saying it's your fault, but if you jumped right into the first relationship that came along and you really didn't take the time to look for the signs, you weren't looking out for yourself. And yes, there are signs. Narcissism is ugly, and if you've been with an abuser, you probably notice it's a common trait among them. Pretty common for them to be users too. Take time after ending a relationship to be by yourself, learn from what you just went through, and look for better. Don't jump on the first bitch to show some attention and flirt a little. If you've taken the time to work on you, then you can see those glaring ass warning signs and keep your friends like me from having to fuck your new bitch up because this bitch thinks it's ok to put their hands on you like you don't have crazy ass friends like me who, again, have no issue spending the night in jail if it means fucking an abuser up real quick.
Seriously, get out of the situation if this shit is ringing a bell. Mainly cuz the phone calls asking me the handle these situations irk. Bringing the drama to my house and just breaking out with it unexpectedly tends to make me beat both of y'alls asses out of reflex. And I keep my distance from certain people once I find out they're in such a situation so that I don't get close enough for them to involve me. It is uncomfortable getting caught between these situations, especially when you know the victim has no intention of leaving.
Pause. Bitch, no, that's not how this works. Yes, we both dudes. And yes, if a dude puts his hands on me, I'm going to proceed to beat the living hell out of him. However, that will be the absolute last time. The relationship doesn't go on after that. I don't do abusive relationships. That is still an abusive relationship.
Same with two females. The shit isn't cute. It is abuse. Being the same ex does not make it ok. It doesn't make the scratches and bruises less painful. It doesn't eliminate the trauma and stress.
The fact is, two people in love should not have to put hands on each other in anger. Is it understandable that we all have tempers? Yes, of course. But part of being an adult is knowing when to walk the fuck away and cool off.
Pause again. For you dumb bitches that do that thing when you have a mature partner who does walk away when they know they've hit their limit and you keep walking after them getting in their face, stop that shit. If I am pissed off, and I leave the room, or worse, leave the house, stay wherever the fuck I left you and give me a minute to calm down so I can come back and speak like a mature adult. If your partner walks away in the heat of an argument, they are more than likely doing it to keep their temper in check, which keeps the domestic violence away and keeps them from saying shit that hurts your feelings.
Back on topic, lately, I've noticed this being an issue in the gay community a lot more often. A little more so with lesbians but it happens with gay men too. Domestic violence is not something I have tolerance for at all. And the issue comes to light when I get that good ol' phone call from the victim, normally the more submissive one in the relationship, needing to get out. See, but I have a few conditions on this if I'm the friend you choose to call in this situation.
1. Please understand, I am beating your abuser's ass. This is not a question. I am beating the fuck out of him or her and please understand I will do my jail time, get out, and beat his or her ass again for having me locked up. I don't play about mine. Do not put your hands on anyone that I say belongs to me.
2. If you take your ass back after I beat his or her ass, do not call me when it happens again. Sorry, but I've already beat their ass once, possibly done jail time for it depending on whether they were dumb enough to call the cops in the situation and whether the cops sided with me or them. If you continue to put yourself in the situation, there's not much I can do to help you other than make that bitch go missing.
3. While you are in my house, your abuser gets their ass beat again if they show up talking about they just want to talk and apologize to you. Again, you have no say in this. I am beating their ass and this time, they're trespassing.
See, the problem is, a lot of people in the gay community think like some of you closed minded straight fuckers. They think it's ok because it's someone of the same sex. So with lesbians especially they figure since it's not a man beating the hell out of them it's just supposed to be ok. Then you call in family and friends and you think we supposed to just brush that shit off and be ok with the shit. We supposed to allow your abuser into our homes, invite them to our family events. No, we're not doing that. But what's worse is when you call us into your fucked up situation and then you side with your abuser, shutting us out when we've been there for you through your lowest points in life. But remember this, when the little bitch you with that's putting their hands on you is done with you, or when you finally hit your breaking point but you've alienated those closest to you, you already burned that bridge. Ain't no crossing that again.
So to my gay and lesbian brothers and sisters, understand this. Domestic violence is an issue and it should not be tolerated. If you cannot function in your relationship without putting your hands on each other, you are in an abusive relationship and you need to get the fuck out. It is not ok just because you're both men or you're both women. Love is not supposed to hurt you (least that's what they tell me).
Sidenote to the bisexuals, if you jump from a hetero relationship into a homo relationship right after and you're getting your ass beat in both, you need to be single. Stop, get the fuck out of your current situation, take some time to be alone and get to know yourself, what you can do for yourself. Love yourself. Yes, this is putting some light on a situation I have watched unfold in someone I know personally, and frankly, it's not uncommon, especially among this younger generation. There is nothing wrong with being single and working on you. No, I'm not saying it's your fault, but if you jumped right into the first relationship that came along and you really didn't take the time to look for the signs, you weren't looking out for yourself. And yes, there are signs. Narcissism is ugly, and if you've been with an abuser, you probably notice it's a common trait among them. Pretty common for them to be users too. Take time after ending a relationship to be by yourself, learn from what you just went through, and look for better. Don't jump on the first bitch to show some attention and flirt a little. If you've taken the time to work on you, then you can see those glaring ass warning signs and keep your friends like me from having to fuck your new bitch up because this bitch thinks it's ok to put their hands on you like you don't have crazy ass friends like me who, again, have no issue spending the night in jail if it means fucking an abuser up real quick.
Seriously, get out of the situation if this shit is ringing a bell. Mainly cuz the phone calls asking me the handle these situations irk. Bringing the drama to my house and just breaking out with it unexpectedly tends to make me beat both of y'alls asses out of reflex. And I keep my distance from certain people once I find out they're in such a situation so that I don't get close enough for them to involve me. It is uncomfortable getting caught between these situations, especially when you know the victim has no intention of leaving.
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