Don't be surprised at someone holding your lover in low regard.

I'm not really eloquent at putting titles together, so just read. I'm gonna keep this one as short as I can. You know how people form opinions based off of the words of others? It's not so different when you have an opinion of a person. Well, I got this homeboy... let's just call him Lucky, and he's in a relationship. It's not the most perfect one and there's been a lot of fuck-ups made, fights had and attempts to repair damages, but they are truly in love. So, anyway, Lucky sends me a message talking about how his girlfriend's sister don't really like him.

Okay? Big whoop. Not something I would lose sleep over. Apparently, Lucky feels the same way. But the reason why is stupid as hell but legit if you're concerned for your family; she thinks he's abusive. Granted, I know abuse comes in all forms than just a black eye and bruises poorly covered with makeup, but I can vouch for this man; he doesn't show the signs. Granted, the two fight from time to time and it's never been physical, but what couples don't argue? Why does she think he's abusive? Because Lucky had his homie over and brought him in the crib. I don't see much wrong with that, Lucky and his girl share their place 50-50, y'know? Therefore, she feels Lucky doesn't listen to her.

Guess not with her, but then again, Lucky feels like she's practically offended by any and everything so he doesn't feel like he can do or say much of anything. He hasn't hung out with his friends, he hardly has them over, etc.

Moving on, I tell Lucky that maybe her sister has a low opinion of him because well, his girlfriend gives her reason to have one. Women like to talk and when you're constantly telling your girlfriends that your man ain't shit and he's this and he's that, they're not gonna want to see anything good about him.

Also, women should not only learn to tell their girlfriends to mind their own business, but you should stop running to them every time your guy does something you feel is an affront to you, because not everyone that says they have love for you wants to see you rise up. Sometimes, just sometimes, they look for you to fail.